February 17, 2016

To Date or Not To Date?

At my age, I really cherish the friendships I have with other single women. Not that I don’t love my married/coupled friends, but my single friends and I have more in common… well, kind of.

So a few of my single friends and I have been having conversations asking whether or not we want to be in a relationship, or why we aren’t in one, or if there are particular reasons we haven’t found one that sticks. I know that I’m pretty picky, and having that elusive “spark” is important to me. I want someone who gets along with my friends and family and who enjoys the same things as I do.. blah blah blah.

It all got me to thinking about being single at 36 and if I really want to be in a relationship. So I created a pros and cons list that might help me decide (although very doubtful).


PROS                                                                                      CONS
Having a companion to do things with                        Feeling like you have to have them along for everything
Getting knocked up                                                         I can do it without a relationship (IVF,not being a slut)            
Being old by myself                                                         If they got older faster I’d have to take care of them
Sex                                                                                      I don’t think there is a con to this one..
Having someone to cook for                                          Unless they are picky and have a ton of allergies
Cuddling                                                                             Do not cuddle with my while sleeping. I hate that
                                                                                             Having to share my holidays with his family
                                                                                             Not being able to hang out with my friends all the time
                                                                                             I probably can’t have a household full of animals
                                                                                             I tend to date cheaters.. so there’s always that
                                                                                             I can’t move at a moment’s notice
                                                                                             I imagine they’d want me to shave my legs daily
Help cleaning my coop??                                                Hmm, maybe I do want a relationship
                                                                                             I like my alone time
No more first dates- I hate those
This is all off the cuff so this list is rather arbitrary-- but as you can see, my CON list is longer than my PRO list. What does that mean? More chickens, cats, moo-moos, and less razors. Sounds like a good plan to me.



  1. I loved the list of Pros and Cons - so funny! (Lia)

  2. Love!! Glad to see you in the blogging world!

  3. somebody would be so lucky to have you as a wife/gf, if they only knew all the things you can do and want to do. you'd take care of them, do all the planning, come up with cool stuff to do and feed them (esp farm fresh eggs) but let them know up front you do like whining or soft-hearted people who cry easily lol anyway, whatever you decide to do you'll always have ur momma!